MINOA, N.Y. – Steven St. Laurent’s son and widow sat at a dining room table to write his obituary in May. Most of it came easy.
He was 67. He served in the Navy during the Vietnam War, achieved 15 years of sobriety, worked tirelessly for his family. He was obsessed with ham radios and had an encyclopedic knowledge of cars and air conditioners. He was loved by many.
But two questions quickly arose:
Do we say that he died of Covid-19? And should we mention the militia?
The obit published May 10 mentioned the cause of death but omitted St. Laurent’s five-year membership of the New York Light Foot Militia. The reason for both choices might seem familiar for those with families across the political spectrum in a divided country. It’s a country where two sides fail to agree on basic truths, where social media insulates us from those with opposing views and where the stakes seem to ratchet up with each passing day.
To some in his family, St. Laurent watched so much Fox News that he…